Unlocking Grandparent Power: Tips to Get Baby Boomers Involved in Childcare

Unlocking Grandparent Power: Tips to Get Baby Boomers Involved in Childcare

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We all have those friends. The parents with two easy neurotypical kids, and highly helpful grandparents who live down the block and who come by to do laundry and babysit 4 times a week. While I’m happy for those friends and all the support they get and all of the weekend solo vacations they get to brag about on Instagram. 

For the rest of us, getting support from grandparents. In some cases, its the sad story of parents who died too young, or who’s parents require care (see: The Sandwich Generation)  or managing chronic illnesses. And then there are some in the middle, who feel they’ve done it already and want to be there just for the fun stuff and not the hard stuff again.

This article is for those of us in between – those of us hoping to elicit more help from the baby boomer parents for whom you will likely be supporting with senior care.

The Current Situation

Many baby boomers are not as active in their roles as grandparents as previous generations. According to a recent survey, nearly 60% of U.S. grandparents are baby boomers, and their approach to grandparenting is distinct from previous generations. Many choose to remain engaged in their own lives, prioritizing personal interests and activities over grandparenting duties (Next Avenue, Scoop Upworthy).

The increased life expectancy and financial independence of baby boomers have contributed to this trend. Many boomers are still in the workforce or are enjoying a busy retirement filled with travel and hobbies. They may feel they have already fulfilled their parenting duties and are reluctant to take on new responsibilities (Next Avenue).

The Pressures of Raising Kids Today

As a parent in today’s world, the challenges are multifaceted. The demands can often feel overwhelming, and the need for support is greater than ever.

For instance, the cost of childcare has skyrocketed, making it a significant financial burden for many families. According to a report by Child Care Aware of America, the average annual cost of infant care in the U.S. is over $9,000, which can consume a substantial portion of a family’s income (Child Care Aware).

Moreover, balancing work and family life has become increasingly difficult. A study by the Pew Research Center found that 60% of working parents find it challenging to balance their job and family responsibilities. The emotional toll of this balancing act can lead to burnout, affecting both parents’ and children’s well-being (Pew Research Center).

Imagine having a conversation with your parents about the struggles of managing a demanding job, rushing to pick up the kids from school, and then coming home to a mountain of chores. You could share a personal story about how exhausted you feel and how just a few hours of their help each week could make a world of difference.


  • Childcare Costs: The cost of childcare has increased by 70% over the past three decades (Child Care Aware).
  • Work-Life Balance: 60% of working parents report difficulty balancing work and family responsibilities (Pew Research Center).
  • Financial Strain: The average family spends about 10% of their income on childcare, which is more than the recommended 7% by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS).

Overcoming Obstacles: Why so many Baby Boomers Are Hesitant

Understanding the hesitations of baby boomer grandparents can help in addressing their concerns and finding a middle ground.

Health Issues: Some baby boomers have chronic health issues that limit their ability to help physically. This is a legitimate concern that needs to be respected and accommodated.

Emotional Reasons: They may feel they’ve earned a break after years of hard work and child-rearing. For many, the idea of taking on the responsibilities of childcare again feels overwhelming.

Lack of Understanding: There may be a generational gap in understanding the pressures faced by their children today. Baby boomers might not fully grasp the financial and emotional strain that modern parenting entails.

Try having a conversation with your parents about the struggles of managing a demanding job, rushing to pick up the kids from school, and then coming home to a mountain of chores. You could share a personal story about how exhausted you feel and how just a few hours of their help each week could make a world of difference.

Steps to Address Hesitations: 

  • Acknowledge Their Concerns: Start by acknowledging their right to enjoy their retirement but explain the immense pressure you are under.
  • Highlight Small Ways to Help: Suggest small, manageable tasks that wouldn’t overwhelm them but would significantly help you, like picking up the kids from school once a week or helping with homework via video call.
  • Communicate Clearly: Ensure they understand the current demands and pressures you face and how their involvement could alleviate some of these burdens.

Useful Ways Grandparents Can Help

Grandparents can provide invaluable support in various ways. Here’s how they can be most helpful:

Consistent and Dependable Drop-offs and Pickups:

  • Regularly picking up grandchildren from school or activities.
  • Helping with transportation to extracurricular events.

Assisting with House Chores:

  • Helping with laundry, cleaning, and other household tasks.
  • Preparing meals to ease the daily workload.

Being Good Communicators:

  • Informing in advance if they need to cancel plans.
  • Keeping open lines of communication to coordinate schedules.

Helping with Homework and Education:

  • Assisting grandchildren with their homework.
  • Engaging in educational activities, such as reading together or exploring interests.

Reasons to Convince Baby Boomer Parents to Help

Convincing baby boomers to take a more active role in their grandchildren’s lives can be beneficial for everyone involved.

Strengthening Family Bonds:

  • Involvement in their grandchildren’s lives can enhance family relationships and create lasting memories.

Providing a Sense of Purpose:

  • Many retirees find renewed purpose and joy in spending time with their grandchildren.

Offering Practical Help:

  • Their assistance can significantly reduce the stress and workload on parents.

Enhancing Development:

  • Grandchildren benefit from the unique perspectives and wisdom of their grandparents.

Sharing Values and Traditions:

  • Grandparents can pass down important family traditions and values.

Tips for Making Grandparental Help Work Better

For a smoother experience when grandparents help with childcare, consider these tips:

Open Communication About Finances:

  • Discuss who pays for what to avoid misunderstandings.

Setting Clear Expectations:

  • Clearly outline what help is needed and what can be realistically provided.

Understanding Their Capabilities:

  • Ask about their pet peeves and limitations to tailor tasks to their abilities.

Preparing for Visits:

  • Ensure they have a comfortable sleeping arrangement.
  • Accommodate any health or dietary needs they may have.

Engaging baby boomer parents in childcare can provide much-needed support for today’s parents. By understanding their perspective and addressing their concerns, it’s possible to foster a supportive environment where grandparents play an active and positive role in the lives of their grandchildren.

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